Breadwinners

The values of patriarchal society are not only in developing or Middle Eastern countries (which are known for adopting these values at a high rate), but also happen in the global north, like in the UK.

Breadwinners are those in an institution who are more dominant, at a higher level, or earn higher income.

More breadwinners now are women (a trend in the UK), either single parents or simply more enthusiastic about what they do (so they can earn more and have a better job).

Breadwinners should be supported by other non-breadwinner members of the institution, especially within the family. Because the trend now is that most of them are women, these women need support with household admin and division of work so they can rest peacefully without being judged as "bad mom" or "bad partner".

In more egalitarian countries, the policy has ensured equity for men and women, especially when they are having a baby. The paternal leave is now being taken, it's more like compulsory to take, by the men to support their partner taking care of the newborn. Even the people here do not have the term "working mom," as strange as it sounds, as "working dad" in our normal society. It is just because it is weird, because normally, everyone is working.

In a family setting, once you have the unequal division of something, such as caring for the children, household chores, and admin, anything, you should immediately communicate it to your partner. Because everyone deserves to be respected and given the space to grow professionally, and if you do not work, you deserve to actualize yourself, express yourself, and do what you love to function better.